Anna and I had the beginnings of an interesting discussion last night. Unfortunately, we *had* to watch The Importance of Being Earnest and Strictly Ballroom (yes yes, I did watch 10 hours worth of movies yesterday!), so we never got to finish it. So I thought I'd finish it here. We were talking about Will Acuff (of SpencerAcuff, my new favorite local band) not being reformed and I said something to the effect of "Well, I guess I can't marry him then". She asked, slightly shocked, if I meant that I won't marry a guy who's not reformed. I told her that was correct and she asked why. She had an objection or two, but I'll let her comment on those. But anyway, I thought my reasoning was interesting enough to let everyone read it.

1) I would like my husband to be very absolute about what he believes. He would have to be either definitely reformed or definitely not. Not that I think it's wrong or even bad to be somewhere in the middle. And it's not that I think that people who aren't clearly either extreme don't take their faith seriously. Many of my best friends aren't really sure either way, but their faith is of utmost importance to them. It's just that for me personally, I want my husband to be one of the extremes.
2) I will never be happy attending a non-reformed church as my home church. I've attended regularly several youth groups of churches that aren't reformed and I go to Chapel Hill Bible every so often for worship and they're not reformed. But I would never be happy attending one as my home church. And, if my husband, not being reformed, were to attend whatever church I was happy at, he would probably not be happy, for the same reasons. And there will be none of that "my husband and I go to different churches" crap that I keep hearing about. Not in my household.
3) I have the tendancy to be what some might call..."not-sweet". This comes out often when I have objections to what I'm being taught (just as an aside...generally, I don't care so much at a place like Grace Church, where I know they're not reformed, because I can't expect them to teach what I believe...where as, at Good Shepherd, if someone isn't reformed and is teaching my Sunday school class (*coughfreddiecough*), I become "not-sweet" because I do expect them to be teaching the things that I believe). I would imagine that if my husband, being the spiritual leader in our marriage, had different beliefs, I would have issues with it. I mean, just knowing myself, I imagine I would. And that wouldn't so much be good.
4) Reformed boys are cuter.
5) No, really.
- thoughts provided by Katey Orr @ 12:47 PM